annieology

Several weeks ago, Me and I were swapping emails.  Considering that she wants to marry me, I thought it only appropriate that we get to know each other.   Seems she and I are not exactly next to each other on the color wheel.  I’m pretty sure she is totally Blue State.  She thought it might be interesting to come up with a topic and get each others points of view.  Sure why not.  Let’s see…

This month she wanted to know my thoughts on “swearing in front of the kids” if you want to know her thoughts on this subject, I’ll link to her at the end.  Don’t want you ADDers running off and forgetting about me.

Now, I could lie and tell you I don’t have a filter, but I do.  In public.  I tend not to swear when I’m talking to teachers and preachers and people who for whatever reason I still feel the need to not be genuine around.  But friends and family?

I swear.

But I’m not a total potty mouth.

I say dammit a lot.  Which is why Boog tends to say dammit a lot.  If the kids are playing video games and swear, I don’t stop them.  Now if they start really swearing I make them stop playing.  I’m less concerned about the words coming out of their mouths than I am about the level of frustration they aren’t dealing with.   I make them take a break and calm down.

I have never been a person to say “fudge” or “ding dang” or some other silly word.  Who do we think we are kidding when we say “frickin” instead of the other word?

Tech Support and I have also told the kids that there are some people out there who don’t like those words.  Teachers may not appreciate that part of your vocabulary and if someone tells you they don’t appreciate that kind of language, you shouldn’t use it.

Ideally, I would like to be someone who is genuine all the time.  Knowing that there are those around me in this world who prefer I not to swear, I would prefer to not swear so I can be authentic at all times, but that’s not where I am right now.  I swear, because that’s genuine for me right now.

I don’t think that kids need to be exposed to all things going on in my life.  There are things that are not appropriate, and maybe swearing is one of them.  But I also think it’s important for them to see that I am not a perfect person.  I want them to know I get mad, and frustrated and I fight with their dad, (rarely, but we do) and also that I’m happy and in control and love their dad.  It’s a whole big picture.

I don’t know, I might be wrong, and my kids might end up in jail because of it. Let’s go see if me did  it any better with her kid, shall we.

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