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Congratulations on Missing the Very Point You’re Trying to Make

By annie

Apparently some mom cancelled Christmas at her house because her kids are selfish little brats. She decided she’d teach said little brats the “meaning of Christmas” by taking it away.

I’m not saying that her kids shouldn’t have a consequence for their bad behavior, yes they should, but maybe she doesn’t really understand the true meaning of Christmas.

Let me help.

God sent his son to earth to be the living sacrifice for humanity in order to restore our relationship to him for eternity.

That right there is the true meaning of Christmas. Or at least our attempt to explain it.

You teaching them the meaning of Christmas by cancelling it, is as ass backwards as it gets.

You’re kids are selfish brats because we humans are selfish brats. You’re kids want more than they appreciate and deserve? Welcome to humanity.  Your kids aren’t grateful for all the hard work, love, sacrifice and blah blah blah that you put forth on their behalf?  “Hello, is this thing on?”

Christmas is certainly not about what you get, though we’ve made it that way with our lists and expectations. We aren’t out at 3 a.m. waiting in line for the perfect gift, we are out there waiting for the perfect deal. We tell ourselves it’s for others but those are the very same others that are out at 6 a.m. the day after Christmas returning all the shit you bought them.  True story, the day after Christmas is the second busiest retail day in ‘Murica.

God gave us the gift of his son, not because we appreciate it. Not because we deserve it. Not because we are good enough. God gave us his son because he loves us. He didn’t give us Christmas because we were good, he gave us Christmas because HE is good.

Of course we humans use Christmas to manipulate the behavior of our children, “better be good for goodness sake” Santa is watching. That may be part of the fun of Christmas, making the little boogars squirm just a little bit. Make them sweat it out and wonder if they were good enough this year or if Santa was truly going to punish them for being the children that they are. I spent the first decade of my childhood wondering if this was the year I’d blown it and gone and pissed Santa off to the point that he was going to put a big ol’ lump of coal in my stocking. How relieved and grateful I was to wake up Christmas morning and find out that despite all the crap I’d done, he felt I was good enough.

Now that I’m older, I know I will never be good enough. I know I deserve to be on the naughty list. I deserve to have my Christmas cancelled. Thank the lord that I don’t get what I deserve. I know that my name has been permanently taken off of the naughty list, not because I am good, but because HE is good. Something we all eventually learn is that it truly is more blessed to give than receive.  As an adult I get way more excited about Christmas than I did as a kid because I can give things to my kids. The very same kids I want to ship off to military school 47 times a year. Maybe they don’t get it now. Maybe they never get it. It isn’t my job to make them get it. Maybe I can take away their privileges the other 364 days of the year. Maybe I can not go to the mall every 10 minutes. There are 1000 other ways to teach the lesson of gratitude and appreciation.

When it comes to the “meaning” of Christmas though, the “meaning’ is sacred. I am giving you the gift of Christmas because Christmas is special, and because you are special to me .  You may not have been good, you may deserve to be on the naughty list, but you are my child and I want to give you more than you can ever imagine. I will cross your name off the naughty list because your name is written in the blood, sweat, and tears of my sacrifice. You may not get it now or ever, but when you wake up on Christmas, and sneak down stairs before I wake up because you want to know if you made the cut this year, I want to feel your heart jump for joy when you see that you did.

Filed in: annieology • Friday, December 5th, 2014

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